Firecrackers

Trying to clean up a little bit. Found this article. Kind of cool.

4 communication firecrackers
what happens when we throw firecrackers in a fire? unfortuneately many couples argue like throwing firecrackers towards each other.

1. Threats
-a better choice is to calmly express your feelings.
-asking why is a great way to de-escalate an argument

2. Name Calling
-keep the main thing the main thing.
-stay focused on the issues
-resist the temptation to make it personal

3. Blaming Game
-the wifey always says “blameshift doesn’t solve anything”
-acknowledge that what is done is done.
-we can not change the past
-our goal need to restore, learn, then move on

4. Exaggerations
-you always……
-you never…….
-focus on the here and now

The art of conflict resolution isn’t so much about proving I am right. The reason I need to express myself is to bring out what we feel about a situation and communicate to find a solution. I may prove I am right and win the battle but in reality I lost the war.

Even if I may be righ, once I hurt my wifes feeling I am already wrong.